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Great care must be taken to avoid those base traits which cause one party [to the shidduch] to be demeaned before the second party for completely insubstantial things. So that [for example] if the [prospective] groom were an innocent person, who was not so sharp as to understand the subtleties of men and their deceits, or who did not want to engage in levity like the other youths of his age, he is immediately publicized in the city as a fool and a simpleton, so that sometimes this will be a reason for others not to want to make a match with him, or to break the match that they have already made, and many other such wrongs (May the L–rd cut off such "slippery lips" for this!) For it does not suffice them that they are in the category of "men of lashon hara" because of this — for in these words of vanity and their like there is not found even one particular of those mentioned in Principle IX, section 2 — but the Torah even calls them "spreaders of false reports" because what they say is false, as we have written in Part One, Principle I, and in Principle V on this subject. And even if what they said were the absolute truth, it would require all of the aforementioned conditions.